6/3/2017

Tonight I feel alone and I’m scared. For the past couple weeks I have really been struggling, struggling in my walk with God, struggling to fight the depression I feel coming back into my life. I don’t want to go back to that dark place. The fear of going back to that place and never coming out again is something I think about every time that dull sadness begins to wrap itself around my heart. It’s like the waves are rushing up around my neck and if I don’t fight to keep my head above water I’ll drown. It’s after four in the morning and I can’t sleep because of thoughts. It always seems like whenever I start to feel like this, God leaves me. I can’t go through this again, alone. I wish I could run away from my own life and not even tell myself where I went, maybe that way depression wouldn’t know where to find me this time. For the past month, I keep feeling like I’m not where I’m supposed to be at. I don’t belong here anymore, in this place. I want to go where no one knows me so I can start over. I think what I really want to be able to do is leave the old me behind. I want to leave the memories, sights and sounds inside the rooms they were created and close that door never to open it again. Living in the past isn’t living at all. As a teenager I always prayed that God would let me get in a accident that would cause me to have amnesia, so I could wipe the slate in my head clean. Sad thing is my brain might have forgotten but my body wouldn’t, it won’t let me forget. At night I can still feel them on my skin and no matter how much I scrub, that feeling just won’t go away. I have become my own enemy. The worst part of all this is I’m so tired of it, I should be over this by now. Everyone that knew about what happened thinks I’m fine but I’m still struggling. Except now I have to make them believe that I am because I feel like I should be over this by now too. You know sometimes I AM JUST SO TIRED of  faking everything!! I’m so tired of going to church and leaving the way I came. I’m tired of putting on a fake smile around my friends and family. I’m tired of everyone thinking that I’m this Christian that has everything together! Twice this week I’ve had two people ask me about my faith and where I went to church. I didn’t even start the conversation about God, they did. If I’m honest I didn’t even want to talk to them about God. I gave them short answers and tried to change the subject. It’s a shameful thing to admit but it’s the truth. I didn’t feel worthy to talk to them about God. I’m not angry at God but right now I feel numb towards Him. Seems like all the running away I want to do, the only running I’m doing is away from God…I need Him the most right now but something is keeping me from searching for Him. I don’t know how to get out of this rut but I’ve done it before, so I know I can. The thing that is scary though is this time I know just how far you can sink into those waves of depression and if I don’t try to find a way out before too long I’ll be in over my head.

The Girl In The Mirror (journal entry 8-31-15)

As I look in the mirror, I don’t recognize the girl staring back at me. Her eyes are the eyes of a different soul. A girl who relives all the memories I forgot. A girl who can’t forget the very things I can’t remember. The reflection I see staring back at me is who everyone thinks to be me, I don’t have the heart to tell them that it’s not me. I do not know that girl. We are acquaintances at best because we have to be but we are not friends.

I feel as if everyday her smile betrays me because she keeps up the masquerade, the real me suffers in silence. She keeps everyone at arms length, when I want nothing more then to be close to another beating heart. She pushes them away while on the inside I’m screaming “please stay.” The only time the true me has a voice is through a pen because she has control of my tongue.

I hide inside beneath her ribcage seeking shelter from outside evil. Living in a cage is dark at times but it brings protection. She is kind to everyone but me. Perhaps she believes if she can starve me of love I will curl up and die. Maybe she thinks she is doing me a favor? All the ways she tries to protect me, they keep me safe but they keep me lonely.

If only someone would look deep into that woman’s eyes and see the little girl hiding inside, walk into that dark cage and draw her out. Give her a microphone. She doesn’t need someone to be her voice, just let her voice be heard. She would tell you the truth. Maybe that’s what my reflection is afraid of? The truth is painful.

So she bandages the bleeding wounds with princess bandages. So when the little girl sees the wounds she thinks of fairy tales in far away lands. For in that moment her mind leaves and goes where her body cannot. Her mind is her only way of escape. So she dreams up worlds of fake realities, in which the only sadness is that the sun goes down at the end of the day. But even that is not so bad because she makes her wishes on the falling stars.

The dark secret that is porn.

Through out my life, God has set me free from a lot of things. But during the times I went back on the Lord there was something that I always struggled with. I was addicted to pornography…

But I’m a girl, they don’t struggle with porn. (sarcasm intended)

It was because of that stigma that I never told anyone about what I was struggling with. I was too ashamed. So I kept it my little secret.

I was introduced to porn at a young age. I was still a child when one of my abusers showed it to me for the first time. The other man that hurt me, porn has consumed him and destroyed his marriage and family. When I was 16 and 17 I got involved with a guy that was also addicted to pornography. He also tried to draw me deeper into that lifestyle. For something considered a “hidden sin” it wasn’t very hidden in my life. I’m not blaming any of them for the addiction I had, I’m the one that let those claws sink into me.

Porn consumed me. I would “binge” on it. Staying up till four in the morning watching it, only to turn it back on as soon as I woke up. I would avoid spending time with friends and family, just so I could be alone to watch it. There would be times that it was no longer enjoyable to watch but I just couldn’t stop. It was a very strong, stronghold in my life.

Porn made me feel disgusting. I would repent just to fall right back into that same sin. I remember crying on more than one occasion saying, “God, I don’t want to be this person.”  or “God I would understand if you didn’t want to have anything else to do with me.”

I remember one time sitting there about to turn it on to watch and saying “God I’m sorry I’m like this.” I heard the voice of the Lord whisper to me and it made me freeze, He said “I have something better for you.”

God does have something that is so much better for us then pornography. It destroys and twist what God has meant to be beautiful and turns it into a dark source of bondage. In a way it was easy for me to have an excuse to watch it. I would think “It can’t mess me up more than I already am.” In a way I relived my abuse through those videos, in the types of movies that I would watch the girl couldn’t enjoy what was happening to her, it had to be forced. It had to hurt her and she was never in control.  Whenever I turned it off I would cry myself to sleep at night. I would feel like the scum of the earth for even taking part in that by watching it.

I felt too far gone to ever break free from this. I would go to church just to beg God to take that part of me out that desired that. I struggled with this alone because people don’t address the fact that girls face some of the same battles that guys do.

So I decided to sit down and write about this struggle I’ve dealt with in my life. With the hope that if there is another girl that is right where I was, that she won’t feel alone.  

• I don’t need to tell you all the things wrong with porn, you already know. I always knew but knowing didn’t set me free

The last thing I needed was someone reminding me what a filthy, disgusting sinner I was. I already knew that, I needed to be reminded that there is HOPE! We are never too far gone, too deep into a sin that God can’t redeem us from it.

                                   I want you to know that you are NOT disgusting!                                    

             “For ALL have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23 (KJV)

You are not alone in this temptation. Jesus himself was tempted in every manor such as us, yet overcame that temptation.

“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like we are, yet without sin.” Romans 4:15 (KJV)

That verse gives me so much hope. He understands. When He walked on this earth, He was both fully God and fully man. Jesus knows the struggle of sexual temptation but because he overcame…so can we!

“For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succor them that are tempted.” Romans 2:18 (KJV)

Do you know what “Succor” means? it means to assistance and support in times of hardship and distress. God doesn’t just sit up in heaven and hope we don’t fall into temptation and sin. But during those times when the devil is coming at you from every angle, if we call out to God He will “succor” us. The Bible says God will make a way of escape for us.

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”  1 Corinthians 10:13 (KJV)

I’m not here to tear you down because of your sin but to lift up the one that sets free from sin, addictions and shame. God says if I be lifted up I will draw all men unto me.

If you are struggling with pornography and you feel like you are too far into this pit and you can never get out of it, this is me reaching out my hand to you, saying, “Look up, there is hope! I have been in that same pit, let me show you the one that rescued me!”

 

 

 

 

God loves you

“The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.”                     Jeremiah 31:3 (KJV)

Everyone loves to hear about the love of God toward us. If you grew up in church, you hear it so much that your ears often fall deaf to the truth those words hold. I grew up hearing those words but I never truly believed them. When people would tell me that Jesus loved me even up till recently, I used to feel like I was being lied to. I couldn’t understand how if Jesus really loved me, He would let certain things go on. I grew angry toward God and bitter which then made me feel like I wasn’t worthy of His love. How could He love me after I rejected Him so many times, after I hated Him. I was so ashamed at the feelings I held toward Him. I remember saying to God during a time that I was struggling to overcome something and I kept failing, I told God, “I would understand if you never wanted to have anything to do with me again.” And I completely meant that! Yet He didn’t turn away from me, He so patiently kept calling me back to Him. He didn’t desert me.

One night when I was kneeling beside my bed praying, I got honest with God. I remember praying, “God I know your word and everyone else says you love me but I don’t feel that love. They just seem like empty words. God if you really love me, would you show me?”   

I got up from that prayer not feeling any different or more loved than when I knelt down. I’m not sure what I was expecting to happen? Maybe a bright light to shine down on me and this loud voice from God saying, “I love you ……” That would be nice but it never happened.

I began to search for Him, digging in the Bible trying to find this love. The Bible says to “Seek and ye shall find.” I started to find verse after verse and story after story of Jesus’s love put into action. I’ve known these verses and stories all my life but something was different this time, I had put my guard down. I stopped listening to those thoughts that that kind of love wasn’t for me. Just like that verse in Jeremiah 31:3 where it says He has loved us with a everlasting love. Everlasting that means it never stops! And with “lovingkindness have I drawn thee.” He even uses love to draw us to Him! No matter what we have done, how we have felt toward God or how long we have run from Him, with lovingkindness has He is calling us to Him.

One day it happened, I was by myself driving down one of those country roads again. I was singing a worship song when I heard it. The voice of God whispered to me out of the blue and it was this sweet, soft voice that was just dripping with love. (He called me by my name!) and said, “….. I love you”   I just stopped singing. I said “God, was that you?”  God spoke to me first and He called me by name. To think  that not only does the creator of the universe love me, but He knows my name also!

Don’t ever think that your prayers go unanswered or that He doesn’t hear you when you cry out to Him.

God loves you. He loves you in your brokenness. He loves you in your depression. He loves you in your pain, your hopelessness but He also loves you too much to leave you where you are. Search for Him!

“Out of the depths have I cried unto thee, O LORD.” Psalm 130:1 (KJV)

 

“Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases; Who redeemeth thy life from distruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies.” Psalm 103:3-4 (KJV)

That’s love in action!

The pain of forgiveness

FORGIVENESS…I don’t know what pops into your mind when you hear that word but for me I think, “uhhh”. I get this feeling of dread in my stomach and I kind of just want to turn off the sound tunnels on the sides of my head (at least what I like to call them). Forgiveness sounds so beautiful when you are the one in need of receiving it, but can sound like nails on a chalk board when you are the one who has to give it. I’m not going to lie…IT’S PAINFUL!! Anyone one who will tell you it’s not, either they aren’t being completely honest or they are super human and need to teach me their ways! haha.

Lately all I seem to hear is people talking about is forgiveness, it’s what I keep hearing preached about. It’s got to the point when I’m like, “Ok God, I hear you.” You would think that hearing forgiveness preached would motivate you and make you want to forgive but that’s not the case for me. I end up feeling discouraged and a little hopeless. The way I see it is, if it was as easy as saying the words “I forgive you” to that person or in my case those people who have done such evil, I would have done it a long time again. Forgiveness brings freedom, and without it, I’m in a prison. I want the freedom but sometimes the price seems too high for me to pay.  I know for me it seems easier to hold on to the pain and bitterness, because they’ve done terrible things. It’s like for me to forgive them would be to say, “What you did was ok” or “What was done to me wasn’t so bad, so you can go free and I’m just going to act like it never happened.”

I thought I had forgiven the one that I’ve struggled with the most. I even called him on the phone and told him that I held a lot of anger and hate toward him but it was hindering my walk with the Lord. I told him I forgave him for the things that he had done to me, then I hung up the phone.  Things have gone on since that day, things he has done and lies he has said to try and cover his sin. I’ve struggled ever since with forgiveness. It’s a battle raging between my heart and my mind, between what I know is right and what I feel.

I wish I could finish this by saying I’ve forgiven him, saying my past is my past and I’ve moved on. But Christians shouldn’t lie, so I won’t. I haven’t forgiven him but it’s something I want so desperately! I want the pain to be gone, I want peace. I guess I’m afraid that if I was to forgive him that would mean that what he did wasn’t so bad. I have to remember that’s not true. The only problem is that emotions have a way of over riding our minds and what we know to be the truth.

I wish I could be encouraging right now and say something uplifting to you. I hope that if you are in my shoes, that you will find the forgiveness in your heart that YOU deserve. Maybe one day in the future (hopefully very soon) I will be able to write about what true forgiveness feels like and what it feels like to be out of this prison I keep myself locked in. I hold the key. I guess that’s the problem… I’m holding it. I need to let go and unlock the door.

I know this isn’t the end to my story, just a road block. One thing this has taught me is, I’m amazed at the forgiveness of God! He has forgiven me of sooo much and He did it so willingly! I’m trying very hard to be like my King. For me to be able to forgive something like this, the help would have to come from God. BUT I know God is faithful, loving and patient. He will help me to forgive!

Journal entry 12/28/14

Some of the worlds best actors, nobody even knows their names. We walk past them everyday of our lives but never do we stop for an autograph. Some could be Oscar winners for all their years of keeping up the act. They do it so well, it becomes second nature to them. But never is it for fame or fortune, more like for family. If the actor was to step down from the stage, took off the mask and let their soul be seen for what it really is, all you would hear would be gasps then complete silence.

For that is the moment that they find out you’re not who they thought you were. You want nothing more than to be real, but the truth is your the fakest of them all… That’s why the show must go on! People don’t want the truth! The truth is scary, dark and painful but most of all the truth is real. Even when there are stage lights on you, it doesn’t mean there isn’t darkness all around you. The darkness has a way of creeping up on you, with one flip of the switch the light is gone.

You want nothing more than to get away but you can’t find a way out! You’re trapped in your own play. If only you had dropped the act, took off the mask, maybe you could have been saved? But it’s too late the mask has now become a part of who you are. You can’t take it off, you have no skin underneath. To take it off would kill you! 

Years of pain was healed in one touch.

I was reading during my personal devotion the other day about the woman with the issue of blood.

It’s so easy to put this space between us and them, like they are fictional characters but they lived and breathed. In the Matthew account there are only three verses used to tell her story, but for the first time I saw myself in those three verses.

Matthew 9:20-22 “And, behold, a woman, which was diseased with an issue of blood twelve years, came behind him, and touched the hem of his garment: For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment I shall be made whole. But Jesus turned him about, and when he saw her, he said, Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole. And the woman was made whole from that hour.” (KJV)

Because of the kind of disease she had, she was considered unclean. So she suffered silently and alone for twelve years. The same story is told over in Mark 5:25-34, there it tells of how she had tried everything searching for healing, she exhausted all her resources but no healing was ever found.

I thought how many times have I felt like this woman? How many times have I searched elsewhere for my healing? How many times have I felt too weak to push through the things keeping me from getting to Jesus? “The crowd”

I remember praying at times, “God if I can just get to you, just get ahold of you then I know everything will be ok.” I had to get to the place where I was desperate for him, nothing else would satisfy. I had to touch Jesus!

“For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment, I shall be whole.” Matthew 9:21 (KJV)

I don’t think I ever realized before what really happened that day. One touch was all it took to heal years of suffering! If I only had half the faith she did. She didn’t care what people might have thought of her, she didn’t care if people stared. She was on a mission, she had to get to the healer!

When she FINALLY got to Jesus, it caused him to stop and turn around to her. It didn’t matter the size of the crowd calling out his name. There is something special about touching Jesus. It causes him to stop and turn to you. Anyone can stand and call out the name of Jesus for healing, but only the truly desperate will crawl till they reach the healer! To be so desperate for Jesus that you feel like, ” I must get to Jesus, lest I die.”

The Bible says in Jeremiah 9:13

“And ye shall seek me, and ye shall find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.” (KJV)

Just because no one else may have been able to see her disease or the wounds she carried, doesn’t mean she didn’t have any. There are some wounds that only you and Jesus see. It didn’t say he healed her disease, it says he made her whole. He went beyond the surface problem. Maybe she carried years of shame and feeling like a outcast because back in those days, the disease she had with “the issue of blood” made her unclean in the eyes of the world. She was rejected. I wonder if it made her feel like a throw away?

“He healeth the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (KJV)

Years of pain was healed in one touch!

One thing is for sure. No matter the pain, no matter the disease, no matter the wound. One touch from Jesus and we are made whole!

Jesus didn’t just heal her and walk away, but he stopped to comfort her (Vs. 22) He is our comforter, healer, redeemer and savior! Everything that I have ever searched for, is found in him alone.

Jesus sees, Jesus comforts and Jesus heals!

My soul waiteth for the Lord!

Psalm 130:5-6, “I wait for the LORD, my soul doth wait, and in his word do I hope. My soul waiteth for the Lord more than they that wait for the morning: I say, more than they that wait for the morning.” (KJV)

Lately God has been trying to teach me to wait on him. In my eyes I want things to be over with already. I want healing from the past. I want this person to make right what he has done wrong, I want him to get right with God. I want him to ask for my forgiveness, I want him to be able to own up to what he has done. During the meeting he wouldn’t confess, he denied instead.

After the meeting I really struggled with not falling back into old habits and I was fighting thoughts from the enemy again. I had always been told that “the truth will set you free” but I felt like it did the complete opposite for me. I felt like the truth just made everything worse. That now I was out in the open and I felt exposed and ashamed. I wasn’t set free, I was still bound by what happened. I really had to pray that God would help me to lean on him for strength.

This past Friday night, it was like the enemy was beating me up from every angle. I called someone crying. I told them that I was never going to pray about this anymore, that I was done. God wasn’t answering me. When you are in a spiritual battle, at times you can even feel physically weak, like you have no strength left to fight. That’s how I felt Friday night. They began to encourage me, that God hadn’t forsaken me and he hears my cries. That even though we may go through the fire, he is always with us, just like the three Hebrew children. They reminded me that sometimes we have to wait on God to move. He sees a greater purpose that I can’t see right now!

We talked till almost two in the morning and something began to change inside of me. I began to see what I was doing! It was like I had been grabbing Jesus by the hand and was trying to pull him around. I wanted God to move right then and to move only how I wanted him to. But only God knows the end from the beginning, he already knows what’s best for me. That night I had to truly give it to God, I had to just trust him that he would take care of everything!

God has a way of taking these things that the devil throws at us and turning them around for the glory of God! One day there is going to be a person going through what I was going through that night and I’m going to be able to encourage them, just like I was encouraged. As hard as it is to wait on the Lord at times, I know in the end it’s not something that I am going to regret doing!!

I pray that one day this person will be able to confess to the sin the have committed and get it right before God, so one day I will be able to see this person in heaven. I don’t want to allow this stuff to keep me from heaven, but to draw me closer to the one in heaven!

So until I see God move and work this out, my soul will wait on the Lord!

Psalm 40:1-3, I WAITED patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry. He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings. And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the LORD.” (KJV)

Peace, Peace, Wonderful Peace!

Peace, peace, wonderful peace,
Coming down from the Father above!
Sweep over my spirit forever, I pray
In fathomless billows of love!

Tonight is one of those nights where I just needed some peace. Tomorrow one of my abuser’s is going to be confronted and if things go well, I’m going to meet with him too. To be honest, I’m very scared I don’t know what the outcome will be. I need the kind of peace that only the prince of peace can give. I’ve haven’t even been able to eat today, I tried to eat something tonight but got sick and threw it up (that might be TMI) There is a lot of uneasiness inside of me.

I knelt down beside my bed to pray. I was telling God, “I know what your words says, that your strength is made perfect in our weaknesses and that you are a strong tower that we can run into and be safe. That your word says you will not put more on us then we can bare.” I had to remind myself who God is!

Isaiah 26:3-4 “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. Trust ye in the Lord forever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength.” (KJV)

When things are out of our hands and we have no control, the only thing we can do is place them in the hands of our Heavenly Father we have no need to fear. One thing I have to keep reminding myself is he knows the end from the beginning, he knew before the foundations of the world that tomorrow would come and he knew that tonight I would sitting here worrying over something I can’t control. Afraid because I don’t how things are going to turn out, or if they ever be the same again, or if something good will ever come out of this?

I know this fear is nothing more then the enemy attacking my mind, trying to steal any peace I might have.

2 Timothy 1:7 says, For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (KJV)

Tomorrow I’m going to need that spirit of love, power and especially a sound mind when I see him. It’s not that I don’t love him, I’ve even called him and told him I’ve forgiven him. There is still a chance that tomorrow he will deny ever doing anything and I am going to need the spirit of love to help me. I have prayed many times that God would put in me his love for them, that I would see them as he sees them… lost and in need of a savior… so that way I could love them like he loves them.

I want the same kind of love that Jesus had when he was on the cross, even though the crowd stood mocking him, he still said “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” For the longest time that verse confused me, they knew exactly what they were doing, they were killing him. But they didn’t know to whom they were doing those things to…the Son of God! I use to think God I could never say that “forgive them for thy know not what they do” because they do know exactly what they’ve done, but they didn’t know who they were doing it to…a daughter of God.

On my own or in my flesh I don’t think I would have ever been able to forgive them, but I’ve been saved -adopted- God’s blood now covers me and it’s the same blood that made it possible for Jesus to forgive those “hood rats” even while they were still mocking him. It’s the same blood that has now made it possible for me to forgive them also. That doesn’t mean that I have to let myself get close to them or trust them, I can still keep my distance and be safe and forgive them at the same time.

I thank the Lord that after praying tonight I felt a peace come over me, not a peace that everything will be ok but a peace that even if things aren’t ok tomorrow it’s out of my hands, it’s now in his and that’s safest place for it to be! I have a peace that passes all understanding (because even I don’t understand it!) but I have to just trust the prince of peace!

Was it my fault?

I had the weirdest dream last night. One that made me wake up thinking “What?”

In the dream I was in this room with a bunch of strangers. They were all sitting around just talking, for some reason I laid down on my back on the floor with other people that had laid down. Out of no where this guy comes over to me and gets on top of me, I try to push him off of me but he’s too strong. He holds my hands down and starts kissing me. The dream was so real I could feel his body weight on me, I could even feel his breath on my face! I could hear him breathing and I can’t stand that sound. This goes on for what seems like forever! I turn my head so he would kiss my neck not my lips. In the dream I felt so guilty about that because it made me feel like I had a say in what he was doing…if that makes sense? He stops and just stares at me, I know I’ve seen this guy before somewhere maybe even in real life! I just can’t remember his name. He knows I know him, and that gives him some kind of power over me because he knows I won’t say anything. He reached into my pants, I finally found enough strength to push him off of me. Once it was over with I thought in the dream “This is my fault, I should have never laid down.” Then I wake up from the dream.

Even after I woke up I still thought it was my fault because I shouldn’t have laid down, I made myself vulnerable. I realize it was just some stupid dream but it troubled me that I would still think that it was my fault that this guy jumped on me. Then I remembered all the times I’ve felt that some of the abuse I endured was my fault, because of that I still sometimes feel like I can’t get angry or upset over some of the things done to me. It probably sounds completely insane to people looking from the outside in. There were times when my sister and I were at this house alone with one of those that hurt me. I would lock my sister out of the house so he wouldn’t hurt her, he would abuse me instead. I still carry this guilt that I was asking for it, that I can’t let what he did to me during those times upset me because I put myself there and made myself vulnerable.        “I was asking for it” To this day she still thinks I was just being mean to her because I wouldn’t let her “play” with us. I asked her a couple months ago if she remembered all the times I locked her outside, she did and she said “You were such a mean sister to me” It felt like my heart broke a little when she said that. All I could think was “If you only knew I did it because I loved you.”  I don’t think I will ever tell her the truth about that. I don’t want her to carry a guilt about something she had no control over.

There were other times with the other person that made me feel like it was also my fault. I still to this day catch myself torturing myself over ” If only I had…” or “Why didn’t you just say something” or ” You let him do it because you kept quiet” He never once told me not to tell, I guess he knew me enough to know I was the silent type. Guess he was right.

There is one person that knows my story, he is the only one who has ever told me that it wasn’t my fault. Part of me wants to believe him but the other part just thinks “If you were me then you would know those times were my fault.”

I want to put all the blame where it belongs, but I can’t seem to do that. There are some things I’m afraid to tell because I don’t want my family to think that I let all these things happen. I think in my mind it’s easier to just believe that it’s my fault because if I say it’s my fault then that means I could have stopped it but I didn’t. In a strange way that gives me control over what happened like I had a say even if I didn’t. Maybe one day I will believe that it wasn’t my fault, but that day is not today…

He sees beauty in the brokenness!

I once had someone tell me that

“God is a God that takes brokenness and turns it into beauty.” 

I’ve heard people say things like that all my life, but it never really hit home till I heard this person say it. I couldn’t imagine how God could take any part of my life and turn it into something of beauty. My life had been shattered into so many little pieces that in my mind it was impossible for even God to find all the pieces and put them back together again. If by chance he could find all the pieces that are broken and he tried to put them back together, it would never be the same again.

In my mind I couldn’t be fixed. I felt like God should just move on and try to help someone else who could be repaired. I don’t think I wanted to be fixed, just thrown away.

God doesn’t just turn brokenness into beauty, but he sees beauty in the brokenness!

God has this amazing ability to look at us and the mess our lives are and see beyond all that into what we can be once we give him the broken pieces!

I guess because when we reach the place of true brokenness, only then can we say, “God I can’t fix myself, I’ve tried, and I’ve failed. Please fix me!” He says, “Finally, now she is ready. My child, I will mend you.”

He takes the ugly and odd shapes, with his touch they begin to form into something new, something beautiful. But broken pieces even when they are arranged into a beautiful design, are still broken. The slightest move and they will shatter right back to the mess they came from. They need to be bound together with something strong enough that the wind and rain won’t destroy it. Something that can come between every little piece and hold it together. So God puts himself right in the middle, because only he is strong enough to hold us together! it’s like one day it clicked to me why brokenness is so attractive to God, because only in the brokenness do we let God truly become the very thing that holds us together. We fall apart when we try to do what only God can do!

When God is finished we are no longer broken! But we’re also never the same, in the middle of what use to just be “us” is God “the grout” he is what holds us together. Just like a mosaic we are now stronger after having been broken and repaired by the hands of the greatest artist of all time! The same artist that paints the sky every night and spoke galaxies into existence, is the same artist that cares enough to lovingly put us back together and make us whole again.

I want God to take the brokenness in my life and turn it into something beautiful. I want him to be the “grout” in my life, the center of everything, the one who holds me together!

(My name starts with J so I thought the picture was perfect!)   😉